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Send us a textWhen emotions feel overwhelming, it can be hard to focus, think clearly, or stay present. This TOOLBOX episode teaches you how to create your container, a simple, EMDR-informed emotional regulation skill designed to help your nervous system feel safer and more organized.In this guided episode, you’ll be walked through how to create a mental container that can safely hold difficult thoughts, feelings, or memories when they feel too big to manage all at once. This skill is often used in trauma-informed therapy to support emotional regulation without avoidance or suppression.You’ll learn:What a container is and how it helps regulate emotionsWhen and why this skill is useful during overwhelmHow to create a container you can return to anytimeHow containment supports nervous system safetyThis episode is ideal for anyone experiencing anxiety, emotional flooding, grief, or difficulty turning their thoughts off. It’s designed to be saved and reused as a grounding resource whenever you need it.This podcast is meant to be a conversation — not a lecture. 🖤 Have thoughts, questions, or a topic you want covered? Or want to share how this episode supported you? Email me at kayla@evolutionwellnessnc.com or find me on social at @itskaylareilly. I genuinely love hearing what you’re navigating. ✨

Send us a textWhen emotions spike, it’s easy to feel flooded, anxious, or unable to focus. This TOOLBOX episode teaches you how to use your container—a simple, EMDR-informed emotional regulation skill—to manage overwhelming thoughts and feelings without suppressing them.If you’ve already created a container, this episode shows you how to use it in real-life moments: when anxiety rises, intrusive thoughts loop, or emotions feel too big to hold. If you haven’t, you can still follow along and learn how containment works as a nervous-system regulation tool.In this guided episode, you’ll learn:When to use your container for emotional overwhelmHow to place thoughts, feelings, or memories into the container safelyWhy containment helps calm the nervous systemHow to return to the present without avoidance or shutdownThis episode is especially helpful for people experiencing anxiety, grief, emotional flooding, or difficulty turning their thoughts off. It’s designed to be saved and reused whenever you need support.This podcast is meant to be a conversation — not a lecture. 🖤 Have thoughts, questions, or a topic you want covered? Or want to share how this episode supported you? Email me at kayla@evolutionwellnessnc.com or find me on social at @itskaylareilly. I genuinely love hearing what you’re navigating. ✨

Send us a textGrief feels heavier today—and it’s not just because loss is painful.In this episode, we explore how the loss of ritual in modern life has made grieving harder, lonelier, and more confusing than it used to be. For centuries, religion and culture provided structured grief rituals—like funerals, shiva, memorials, prayer, and communal mourning—that helped people process loss in a contained, supported way.Today, more people identify as non-religious, and many of those rituals have quietly disappeared. What’s left is unstructured grief that often has nowhere to go.As a therapist, I see this show up in clients who struggle to let go of losses such as:The death of a loved oneThe loss of a petBreakups and unresolved relationshipsLife transitions and unacknowledged griefIn this episode, we talk about why grief becomes overwhelming without a container—and why creating personal rituals can be one of the most effective tools for healing.You’ll learn how intentional rituals—like writing a letter and releasing it, honoring anniversaries, or creating space to remember—help the nervous system process loss, create emotional boundaries, and allow you to move forward without forgetting.This episode is for anyone who feels stuck in grief, unsure how to let go, or wondering why loss still feels so raw years later.This podcast is meant to be a conversation — not a lecture. 🖤 Have thoughts, questions, or a topic you want covered? Or want to share how this episode supported you? Email me at kayla@evolutionwellnessnc.com or find me on social at @itskaylareilly. I genuinely love hearing what you’re navigating. ✨

Send us a textWhat if improving your relationship didn’t require therapy homework, long talks, or weekly date nights?In this episode, we’re breaking down how just 4 intentional minutes a day can dramatically strengthen your relationship—using principles from attachment theory that apply to marriage, parenting, and family life.You’ll learn about the four key moments every day that matter most for emotional connection:When you wake upWhen you separate for the dayWhen you reuniteWhen you go to sleepThese moments of transition are when our nervous systems are most sensitive to connection or disconnection. Taking just 60 seconds in each moment—through eye contact, physical affection, curiosity, and presence—can help build secure attachment, reduce conflict, and create a deeper sense of safety and closeness.This episode is especially helpful if:You feel disconnected from your partner despite loving themYou’re overwhelmed by parenting and daily routinesYou want practical relationship tools grounded in psychologyYou’re curious about how attachment theory shows up in real lifeIf you’re looking for simple, research-based ways to improve communication, emotional safety, and intimacy, this episode gives you something you can start today—no extra time required.This podcast is meant to be a conversation — not a lecture. 🖤 Have thoughts, questions, or a topic you want covered? Or want to share how this episode supported you? Email me at kayla@evolutionwellnessnc.com or find me on social at @itskaylareilly. I genuinely love hearing what you’re navigating. ✨

Send us a textIf setting boundaries is on your New Year list… but you already feel guilty just thinking about it, this episode is for you.In this episode, I break down 3 realistic ways to set better boundaries this year — without over-explaining, people-pleasing, or blowing up your relationships.We’ll explore why boundaries feel so hard, what’s actually happening in your nervous system, and how to create boundaries that feel sustainable instead of exhausting.This podcast is meant to be a conversation — not a lecture. 🖤 Have thoughts, questions, or a topic you want covered? Or want to share how this episode supported you? Email me at kayla@evolutionwellnessnc.com or find me on social at @itskaylareilly. I genuinely love hearing what you’re navigating. ✨