Repairing & Improving Family Relationships
At Evolution Wellness in Wilmington, NC, our professional family counselors specialize in helping
you heal the most important relationships you have — the ones within your family. When you need calm restored
to your family’s tempest, we can help.
Do you have children who just don’t follow directions? Are you finding it challenging to have quality time as a family without an argument? Do you feel your family is distant and cold with each other? Stable relationships are not easy to maintain and deciding counseling is the right option to deal with family problems is a big step, but sometimes, it’s a necessary and helpful step. When the family’s own approach for solving problems has not been formed, communication and conflict resolution steps are no longer working, or problems seem insurmountable, it’s time to visit us. We know that it’s not easy to open up and admit your family’s not as perfect as it looks on social media, but good news, no family is a perfect as Insta would lead you to believe!
Trying family counseling is not admitting defeat—it is an important step to helping build a family’s toolbox and resources.
Benefits of Family Counseling Services
There are many reasons you and your loved ones may decide to schedule family therapy sessions at Evolution Wellness, but whatever your reasons for getting started, families can expect to experience a lot of benefits from their therapy journey with our team, including:
- Learning better ways to communicate – speaking and listening, being clear and precise
- Learning ways to resolve issues, including sibling rivalry
- Establishing clear roles and boundaries and respecting these boundaries
- Providing a safe place to discuss family issues
- Coping with behavioral issues
- Enhancing relationships and improving familial bonds
- Building self-esteem
- Improving family happiness
- Repairing emotional wounds
- Moving forward after a divorce or blending a new family
- Figuring out where anger stems from, avoiding triggers, resolving issues, and thinking before reacting
- Expressing empathy – seeing from each other’s perspectives
- Developing unconditional regard for your family members
- Getting needs met in a loving way
- Parenting to foster independence and responsibility, lovingly address negative behaviors, and develop healthy bonds
- Creating more positive time together and forming stronger bonds
Will We All Meet Together Every
Family Therapy Session?
Depending on the family therapist’s approach, you may do all family therapy sessions together as a family or even have some breakout sessions with just parents or just siblings. For example, if you are concerned that siblings are arguing too frequently, the family counselor might see fit to meet with just the siblings to work on conflict resolution strategies, and then, meet with the parents in a separate family counseling session to develop clear expectations of when to intervene and when to let the siblings work out conflict on their own. The great thing about family therapy with our team is that we encourage flexibility, so your therapist will respond to your family’s needs as they arise.
Why is Good Parenting Important?
Most of us had good parents. Perfect parents? Absolutely not – that’s not a thing. None of us are perfect, but that doesn’t mean that the needs our parents failed to meet for us won’t impact who we become. Vulnerability is hard, but when it comes to a parent/child relationship, kids always feel vulnerable. Think about that for a minute. Your children depends on you for everything, so if they don’t get what they need (even if they don’t know how to ask for it), they may feel like they don’t deserve what they need. Now, imagine if your kids know that the issue isn’t that they’re not good enough. The issue is that you’re not perfect. Good parenting often means recognizing that you make mistakes. By admitting this to your children, you are creating a meaningful bond that tells them that it’s okay to be imperfect and that you care enough to try to be better. That you are vulnerable too. The dynamic shifts, and you can more fully connect with your child.
Parenting is the hardest job on the planet. There is certainly no right way to parent, but a family counselor may have expertise to help parents identify strategies, behavior plans, and boundaries to improve the family functioning. Your family therapist will help you identify your values and goals as a parent and teach you how to achieve behavioral and emotional goals within those value systems while still respecting your child’s needs and autonomy. If that sounds like an impossible task – well, welcome to being a parent! It’s just this from here on out, but you can do it!