As a good parent, your children come first, from feeding them in the morning to helping them brush their teeth at night. However, as they age, your children need you less and less until finally one day, they leave. This can be devastating to you when someone whom you’ve loved and cared for for 18 years is no longer around.

Evolution Wellness in Wilmington, NC, offers individual counseling services to help you cope with life as an empty nester. In the meantime, try these tips to cope when you become an empty nester. Contact us today to get started!


  1. Stay busy. One of the main problems of being an empty nester is now you have a lot of time on your hands that you were using to do things for your children. Evolution Wellness advises that you stay busy. Whether this is picking up a new hobby such as gardening, or volunteering at your church or a food shelter, the busier you are, the less you’ll miss your empty nester.
  2. Reconnect with your spouse or partner. As a parent, you put your heart and soul into your children, perhaps to the detriment of other relationships. Now that your heart and souls are gone, you have more time to devote to those relationships that may have taken a back seat. Spend more time with your loved ones, doing things together that you both enjoy, and travel.
  3. Set new goals. For the longest time, your goals were probably centered around your children’s milestones, such as getting them through school and into college. Now that that’s accomplished, it’s time to set goals for you. What do you want to accomplish in the next year? Five years? Even ten years? What difference do you want to make? As you begin to reach for your goals, it will be easier to cope with the loss of your children.

If you need someone to talk to about life as an empty-nester as well as additional coping skills, contact Evolution Wellness in Wilmington, NC, today!